Ne-Yo and Nick Cannon share more than just their entertainment careers and large families—they both seem to believe that “women don’t like good guys.”
In a recent episode of Cannon’s “Counsel Culture” on Prime, the two stars, joined by comedian Godfrey and two other men, opened up about their shift from being devoted to one woman to embracing their “bad guy” personas.
Fans have since criticized Ne-Yo, once known for his hit “Good Man,” and Cannon, star of “Love Don’t Cost A Thing,” for their remarks.
Ne-Yo said:
“I’ve been both the nice guy and the bad boy, and neither worked out. But the bad boy always seems to work a little better. Why is that?”
This led Cannon to ask, “Are women drawn to toxicity?”
Here is the part of the conversation that got very interesting.
Godfrey said he noticed he had a shift in attitude whan he noticed he was getting picked over for bad guys in high school.
Something Cannon agreed with:
“I think that happened to all of us. That might be the origin story of our toxic masculinity”
Then he shared his own story of writing poems and leaving flowers in lockers.
“poem-writing, putting flowers in the locker, [guy] and then when I saw her go with a bad boy, it was like f—k these flowers! And I was like, I will never be heartbroken again. I never wanna feel that,” he said.
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The comments on the video did not hold back!
One person summed it up saying:
The problem is a lot of y’all are urkel chasing Laura and mad because she doesn’t want you???? meanwhile Myra right there but you find everything wrong with her and don’t want her????
Others chimed in swiftly:
Soooo they went through something in high school, never healed from it and made it their entire personality? 40+ year old men? lol
Not healing from yall trauma is the reason why yall wreak havoc on the world. One girl from high school shouldn’t set the precedent for your entire adult life…. And if it does, that simple says you are powerless over your own emotions and life period
they are all too old for this narrative. You can be respectful and considerate to the women you engage with AND set healthy boundaries so that you don’t feel like you’re getting “played”. Also this specific group of men talking about this is wild ????
As a black woman, it’s so embarrassing that these are the type of men sharing our phenotype who are on the world stage masquerading as ‘men’. All problems in communities are top down issues and as it stands now, in this patriarchy, there are nowhere near enough quality black men with a high enough level of self-respect and moral character to be able to build and turn the state of affairs of black people in the diaspora around.
Perpetuating your trauma onto women and also using it as validation for your actions is just…. I think I’m speechless
