They say that you should laugh through pain and it seems as if comedic actress Tiffany Haddish who is having the best year ever does just that.
Recently she had the opportunity to promote her new memoir “The Last Black Unicorn” with People Magazine and in her interview, she shared that one of the things that she really wants is to take care of her mom who is mentally ill. Her goal in life is to make sure her mom has enough care so that she can just be ‘her mom’ again.
She told People:
“I’m just super grateful,” “I was told every day I’d never be nothing,” she says. “Now I look in the mirror and say, ‘Tiffany Haddish, I love and approve of you.’ It was all worth it.”
Raised by her mother, a small-business owner, and grandmother in South Central L.A. (her father left when she was a baby, and her stepfather often wasn’t around), Haddish had a mostly happy early childhood. But when she was 8, her mom was in a car accident that left her with severe brain damage.
“After the accident, oh my God, she would say the worst things to me, like ‘You look like your ugly ass daddy, I hate him. I hate you.’”
“She couldn’t get all her words out, so she’d just punch me. Just full on. Because of her, I can take a punch like nobody’s business. Teachers would ask, ‘Why’s Tiffany’s lip busted?’ I didn’t say anything. As bad as she was to me, I still couldn’t help but love her.”
Teachers would ask, ‘Why’s Tiffany’s lip busted?’ I didn’t say anything. As bad as she was to me, I still couldn’t help but love her.”
She also shared that she put details in her book about her tumultuous relationship she had with a man she divorced twice.
“The relationship got violent. Once at a comedy festival, Tom Green comes over and he is making me laugh so hard. My ex-husband grabbed me. He was like ‘It’s time to go now.’ I had a knot on the side of my head from where he slammed me into the wall and marks on my throat where he’d dug in his nails. When I got onstage, everyone could tell I had been beaten.
All those people wanted to help, but all I could do was push them away, and then go back to the dude that was abusing me. Why? Maybe I didn’t know any other way to be loved.”
Then she shared her ultimate goal in life:
“My mom is still alive, in a mental institution,” she explains in the book. “My goal is to get enough money to buy a duplex.
I want to put her in one of the units and hire a full-time nurse to take care of her. Then I want to get her whatever medications she needs so she can be my mama again. Honestly, that’s all I really want in life.”
Life can be so hard sometimes, read her entire editorial here.