Three years ago, I told myself I was done. Done with old habits. Done with repeating the same cycles. Done with being a version of myself that no longer matched the woman I wanted to become.
I gave myself three years to transform.
I’m now in year two, and let me be real…. the hardest part hasn’t been the workouts, the routines, or the diet.
It’s been my mindset
When you decide to completely overhaul your life, your brain is the first battlefield, and during this overhaul your only job is to create systems that will help you to survive the noise.
From a general perspective, this process is not meant to be confined into a small block of time, but rather a very personal journey tailored towards your own needs at your own pace and a clearly defined timeline.
That can mean, 6 months, a year, three years, as long as it takes to re-wire your brain to match the new person you want to become.
With that said I love Winter Arc season because it is the ideal spring board for those of us that need a swift kick in the ass to get things started.
If you’re ready to lock in for the next 90 days, use this framework to guide you along the way.
1. Life Rebrand
You cannot build a new life with the same identity. Period.
Transformation starts with deciding who you are becoming, writing her down, and rehearsing her until she feels real.
Write your Identity Profile: One page. Who is she? What does she wear? How does she talk? How does she spend her mornings? What does she no longer tolerate? Who are her friends? What does her beauty routine look like? What calls does she take? What are her boundaries?
Act “as if”: Don’t wait for evidence. Start dressing like her, speaking like her, and eating like her before the proof shows up.
Cut the old: Delete apps. Quiet the friendships that keep you small. Toss the clothes that remind you of past versions of you.
Old selves don’t die quietly
The brain thrives on familiarity so expect whispers of old memories, excuses, and “good times.” To counter these things you have to be armed with tools that help you get through moments of weakness.
What worked for me?
Listening to a video that would kick my butt in gear, like this one:
By consuming better input (like that video) ….podcasts, books, sermons, and conversations, I would be reminded of where I’m headed, not where I’ve been. If you stop feeding your mind junk, your entire world will start to shift.
OH, one more thing!
I also Journal every time I practiced being my new self. I know that sounds weird, but that simply means, practicing a new habit, or engaging in a positive activity, whatever that means for you, write it down.
I found that tracking my success would help the habits stick.
Recommended Reading:
Atomic Habits by James Clear — for building habits that stick.
The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest
2. Body Evolution
I knew early on that my body had to become the visible receipt of my discipline. You can’t fake it. When you change your body, you prove to yourself (and everyone else) that your mind is serious.
For me this isn’t about becoming a baddie! This is more about transforming my body in to the Temple that I am the most comfortable in.
Being comfortable in your own skin is not a phrase we should ever take lightly, for some of us, it is a privilege to achieve that level of peace.
I should add here that if you happen become a baddie as a natural by product of your discipline then kudos to you!
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Keep it simple: Walk daily. Lift weights. Eat whole foods. Sleep like it’s your job.
Remove the junk: Food, drinks, and late nights that keep you sluggish.
Embrace the boring: Transformation thrives in repetitive, average days.
When your body gets stronger, so does your self-belief. Every rep and every clean meal is a vote for the new you.
Recommended Reading:
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk — for understanding how your body and mind are connected.
Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker — to learn why rest is the most underrated performance drug.
3. Skill Development
A new identity means nothing if you can’t create value. To thrive, you need stackable, monetizable skills that make you recession-proof.
Choose one high-income skill. Copywriting. Sales. Tech. Branding.
Deep dive for seven days into the tools that will help you to get there. podcasts, books, YouTube, courses and schools.
Build something fast. Sell it to real people. Get feedback. Refine. Repeat.
This also applies to people who choose to work within organizations, our corporate girlies are not exempt!
If you think you aren’t building, selling and refining within the confines of your 9-5 you are sadly mistaken.
Stop dabbling. Stop watching others win. Pick one lane and go full throttle until you can’t be ignored.
Recommended Reading:
So Good They Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport — why skill beats passion.
Influence by Robert Cialdini — for mastering persuasion.
4. Surroundings Reset
Here’s the truth: your willpower is no match for a toxic environment. You can’t build a new self in the same old space.
Personally, I cannot have junk food in my house.
If someone wants candy or chips ….they would have to run to 7-11 real quick… because, honey, my pantry is no longer equipped for those needs.
Purge ruthlessly: Apps, junk food, clutter, subscriptions, and even old outfits that belong to your past self.
Rebuild with intention: Place your gym bag by the door, set books on your desk, keep your phone away at night.
Curate your circle: Spend 80% of your time with people whose normal is your goal.
Sometimes the most radical change comes from leaving your old apartment, your old city, even your old friends. New environments force new patterns and new patterns create new identities.
Recommended Reading:
Willpower Doesn’t Work by Benjamin Hardy — all about designing environments that pull you forward.
5. Mind Empowerment
I always thought I could consume everything at once and remain true to who I want to be as a person.
It doesn’t work!
If you feed your mind trash, eventually that will be your output.
Your mind is the command center. If it breaks, everything else crumbles.
Resilience isn’t about “staying positive.” It’s about taking the hit, processing it without pity, and moving forward with the same force.
Set daily non-negotiables: 3–5 small actions you will do even on your worst days.
Seek voluntary discomfort: Fasting, public speaking, cold showers, difficult conversations.
Audit your triggers: Write down what throws you off track, then create a counter-script in advance.
Cut mental junk food: News, gossip, content that keeps you reactive.
Your brain starts believing you when you keep promises to yourself. That’s when you become unshakable.
Recommended Reading:
Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins — on building mental toughness.
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer — on learning to control your inner voice.
6. Community Shift
Sis, your circle is either accelerating you or anchoring you. There’s no neutral.
Audit your circle: Write down everyone you interact with weekly. Give them a +1, 0, or -1.
Reduce the negatives: Quiet the -1s without guilt.
Invest in better rooms: Masterminds, communities, networking spaces where you’re the smallest fish.
Lead with value: Don’t just show up. Contribute. Serve. Build your reputation as a giver.
Your social feed counts, too. Every account you follow is a voice in your head. Unfollow anything that doesn’t align with the woman you’re becoming.
Recommended Reading:
The 5 AM Club by Robin Sharma — on elevating by upgrading your circle and routines.
Putting It All Together
This 90-Day Blueprint is not a buffet. You don’t get to pick and choose. If you want to be brand new, you have to run the full sequence:
Life Rebrand
Body Evolution
Skill Development
Surroundings Reset
Mind Empowerment
Community Shift
Start within the next 72 hours. Commit to logging your progress daily. Every two weeks, audit the system. Keep what works, adjust what doesn’t.
The goal isn’t perfection. The goal is evolution. By day 90, you won’t just look different.
You’ll think different.
Walk different.
Command rooms different.
Because transformation isn’t about “finding yourself.” It’s about building the woman you always knew you could be.
PS.
If you are stuck and you do not know how to create an identity profile for yourself use this one pager we created in Canva to help.
Happy Winter Arc season!
