We shared a viral clip of a man and woman on a date from the OwnTV Network, and chile…… the girls are triggered.
The video starts with a couple sitting at a table seemingly debriefing how a ‘get to know me’ session between the two of them went.
The man in the scenario starts the conversation by acknowledging that one of the questions he asked her seemed to have rubbed her the wrong way.
He says:
“I asked a question that may have been out of bounds for you, how did that make you feel?”
She responds:
Well…… you were throwing out questions, black or white, summer of spring and every one of them I answered boom boom boom ….you threw out choked or spanked, ..I said hey that’s not a question I am willing to answer”
This is where things get weird!
He says:
I wasn’t coming from a sexual place
Sis was not having it, and she made it clear that everybody who knows anything about ANYTHING, would agree …….if you ask a woman if she likes to be ‘choked or spanked’, its considered ‘sexual’.. unless you are referring to violence.
She goes on further to warn Mr. Red Flag that if he continues to act as if she is strange for standing firm on her boundary based on what he asked her …..she was going to leave.
Bet you can’t guess what happened next!?
Watch:
Some of the comments we received on Instagram were so on point it was clear we have all experienced something similar in our dating life.
Read a few of your responses below:
He was going to try to twist that all around. And she wasn’t not about to waste her time. This is the energy I need all of 2024.
Classic example of gaslighting and not taking accountability. She did well setting boundaries and rules and following through when he did not comply. Play wit ya mama.
And this comment:
When men refer to women as masculine… THIS IS THE TRUEST FORM OF MASCULINITY.
In order for a woman to remain in her femininity she will have standards & set boundaries.
A feminine woman’s MASCULINITY surfaces… WHEN IT’S TIME TO ENFORCE THEM for her OVERALL mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, intellectual, psychological well-being, protection, safety & sanity.
THIS IS A HOW WOMEN FLOW… Intermittently between femininity & masculinity.
it’s unfortunate that most men tell women femininity is SUBMISSION & submission to the wrong leadership looks like… allowing men to walk all over you, devalue you, disrespect you, cheat on you, abuse you in all ways… while you remain silent… without a STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF.
NO, That’s a DOORMAT!
TRUE FEMININITY is COVERED BY HER MASCULINITY.
The masculines role is to protect the feminine… to protect & maintain her softness.
LADIES CONTINUE TO ALLOW YOUR MASCULINITY PROTECT YOUR FEMININITY BY GETTING UP FROM TABLES & WALKING from ANY & EVERYTHING That does not/no longer serves/preserves your highest self!
May your boundaries be stronger than your empathy!
She gave her boundary and also explained why. Since he wanted to act so dense, she was right to walk out.
What else could he possibly mean? Because any alternative sounds like abuse.
But not all of you agreed with her response, one commenter said she appeared way too offended for such a ‘simple question’.
It was a sexual question but I personally would not have found offense in it. We’re all grown. Yes, he should’ve apologized when he saw that it offended her but I don’t think he meant to offend her. It was a simple question. It’s not like he was asking her to take her clothes off and give it to right then and there. She was way too offended in my personal opinion but that’s just me.
But still many of you insisted that he should have simply apologized and praised the woman for standing on business.
But it what other connotation besides sexual can that question be asked? Because if you’re asking her how she wants to be abused, that’s the only other way. ?. His ego got hurt from her “standing on business” response so he decided to gaslight her instead of just saying “my bad. I didn’t mean to make you uncomfortable. I apologize”.
Read more about gaslighting here.
