Do y’all remember the “MRS degree” debate that rocked social media a few years ago? No?
Well, this was a discussion on how women go to college with the intention of dating (bagging) a man who’s got the potential to become the next Jay-Z (successful and hella rich).
In the comment section, many described this “MRS degree thing” as something that’s just for white women.
It’s a lesson they’ve been taught from generation to generation, and it works for them. For Black women though, this concept is foreign, and based on the comments that flocked to Facebook then, many believed that if they’d been taught about it sooner, they might have been further ahead.
This leads us to today’s topic: dating up for Black women.
Is it a bad or good thing? Is it something you should consider doing or not?
The hyper-independent Queens and podcast bros might argue it is, but for us (and a few certified love coaches) dating up can and is in the best interest of any Black Queen.
Keep scrolling to find out why.
Many will call this “gold-digging” or materialistic. But hear us out.
According to research conducted by University College London, a woman’s (Black woman’s for that) salary drops 45% when she gives birth.
Even women who don’t have children are at an economic disadvantage because of the gender pay gap.
Haven’t Viola Davis, Octavia Spencer, and Gabrielle Union been discussing the pay gap between white and Black women in Hollywood? This isn’t just limited to a few select. It’s a global issue.
So, dating up as a Black woman can help you raise your household income and secure your and your child’s future.
Widening Your Social Network
It’s no secret that dating up will expose you to movers and shakers in different sectors.
During the initial stages, these meetings could be a bit intimidating and leave you feeling small. However, the key is to remember that you could easily be one of those movers.
Interacting with people in different circles will expose you to information you may not previously have had access to.
It could push you to change your outlook on beauty and fashion and even allow you to make connections that you can use to better your life.
Exposure To A New Way Of Thinking
And it’s not just for economic reasons. Dating up improves your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being, too.
You learn how to handle certain situations, how to PR the heck out of your life, and how to lean on a higher power for guidance and strength.
Yes, your date nights will be more magical and your trips more exclusive, but your way of thinking will also be challenged in ways you’ve never imagined.
For someone who is open-minded, this can be the perfect chance to grow and become a better, more sophisticated Queen!
It Benefits Men, Too!
When a woman brings her entire, healed, and focused self to a relationship, it can add immense value to a man’s life.
Even when you look at it through marriage goggles, science suggests that married men tend to live longer and healthier lives.
And do we even need to mention that they’re paid about 3% to 4% more? Yes. Funny how the world works!
So, when a quality man dates a quality woman, his investment is tripled and it’ll keep on doing so until you reach Jay-Z, Jeff Bezos, and the heights of the likes.
And when a woman knows her power and unapologetically goes the dating up way, she also motivates a man to better himself.
He’ll want to match that energy and bring more to the table.
To be in a space where he makes more money and has a healthy relationship that can grow into the kind of family he’s always desired!
Do you date ‘up’? Comment below!