What’s the first thing that comes to mind when discussing feminine energy?
For me, it’s my grandmother and how she taught us to live, breathe, and sleep femininity. You always have to be clean, elegant, and proper. You should be eloquent but not loud, sensual but not sexual, coy but not vulgar. You should walk confidently, let your partner play the hero occasionally, and always have pretty shoes.
But growing up in the 21st Century and with some of these feminine traits being termed weaknesses, most of us lost touch with our feminine energy. We embraced more of our masculine energy and have moved with it ever since.
And not to say masculine energy is deplorable (it’s characterized by DOING, logic, progress, success, and reason). But to be in alignment with who you truly are and lead a healthier life, you need to find a balance between these energies.
So, if you’ve been feeling stuck and unfulfilled, unwilling to let anyone into your life, or trying to lead a #softlife but can’t seem to make it happen, here’s everything you need to know about blocked feminine energy and how you can nurture it back to wholesomeness.
But first…
What Is Feminine Energy?
Based on traditional Chinese culture, feminine energy (or Yin) is being compassionate and in tune with your emotions and Intuition.
It’s all about exploring and honoring the traits or parts that make holistic feminism so powerful. It is about being soft or gentle, empathetic, fluid (move with the flow), nurturing, warm, and vulnerable.
And while being “feminine” is viewed as weak in patriarchal societies filled with toxic masculinity, the reality is quite the opposite. Embracing your life force and finding a balance between your masculine and feminine energy can fortify your communication skills and give you a renewed perspective.
But with today’s culture overvaluing masculine energy and success being seen as the ability to be aggressive and overly ambitious with your hustle, most women are finding it difficult to access their feminine sides. They are struggling with “blocked or wounded feminine energy.”
What Is Blocked Feminine Energy?
Blocked feminine energy is a state where the natural flow of feminine qualities and traits within an individual becomes disrupted or obstructed, leading to feelings of guilty, overwhelming stress and anxiety, and being out of touch with your true self.
Your feminine energy is also blocked if you think the only way to harness your power is to push with your masculinity and that tuning out your “soft” and “emotional” traits is the only way to succeed.
It might also be blocked if you:
7 Signs Of Wounded Feminine Energy
Think Asking For And Receiving Help Makes You Vulnerable
In its essence, feminine energy is characterized by receptivity – it revolves around openness to receiving love, support, and constructive criticism.
Your energy might be wounded if you find accepting help, receiving compliments, and absorbing constructive feedback difficult.
The difficulty often stems from fear or pride – fear of seeming vulnerable or indebted to others. Nevertheless, this hesitation can prevent the nurturing aspect of femininity from fully manifesting, leading to an imbalance.
View Femininity As A Weakness
One of the most direct signs of blocked goddess energy is discomfort or rejection of femininity. You become abrasive and prickly when you hear anything about feminine power.
You hide your feminine parts (curves, breasts, etc.) in masculine clothes or behavior. You feel ashamed about being a woman and associate femininity with vulnerability and weakness.
Women with strong feminine energy also intimidate you – and you often ridicule them. You’re scared that embracing your femininity makes you helpless and believe the only way to succeed is by being masculine.
You’re not harnessing the inherent strengths of your feminine energy, which encompass Intuition, creativity, openness, and emotional intelligence.
Have An Unhealed Relationship With Your Mom
Hands up if you feel attacked here. Same, girl, same.
But a wounded relationship with your mom is also a sign of blocked feminine energy.
It’s one of the most sacred relationships in the universe, but when you often find yourselves clashing, lashing at each other, and not able to stay calm and peaceful in a room together, then, girl, you both have wounded feminine energy.
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Suppress Your Emotions And Intuition
How do you react when your love interest opens up to you and becomes vulnerable with their emotions? Do you laugh and brush it off, or do you let them and show them how much they mean to you too?
If you feel uncomfortable and often find yourself laughing, brushing them off, or even ridiculing them, babe, you are dealing with blocked feminine energy.
You think you’re protecting your heart by suppressing your feelings and becoming detached, but all you do is prevent yourself from achieving complete alignment.
Intuition or “gut feeling” is also tied to divine feminine energy, so if you often ignore it or find yourself choosing logic and reason over your instincts, you are dealing with wounded energy. In ignoring your Intuition, you also lose out on its rich inner wisdom, creating a disconnect with your authentic self.
Suffer From Creative Stagnation
Creativity and artistic expression are a hallmark of feminine energy. So when you feel stagnant, struggling with “writer’s block,” or coming up with innovative solutions, it could indicate blocked feminine energy.
Keep Attracting Effeminate Men
Do you often find yourself “wearing the pants” in every romantic relationship you have? Do you have to control every aspect of your relationship – making date night plans, paying bills, handling household repairs, etc.?
Girl, you might be attracting men more in tune with their feminine energy and thus need some masculine energy (from you) to balance the relationship.
Men who struggle to embrace masculinity are naturally attracted to partners with more than their fair share of “masculine” or “manly” qualities. The dynamic is dysfunctional and might work for a while, but it isn’t the recipe for success in your love life.
Neglect Self-Care
You never stop. You’re always on, getting things done, planning, making spreadsheets, and doing more. You live a life of constant busyness, stress, and anxiety and feeling overexerted.
You feel guilty or find it challenging to prioritize your needs, take a break, or invest in things that make you feel your best self. That’s a sign of wounded feminine energy, hunnay!
Try To Control Life
Masculine energy is all about having control, while femininity is about trusting in the natural order of things and that your Intuition will take you in the right direction.
So, if you often find yourself micro-managing everything or never handing the reins to someone else, then babe, your feminine energy might be blocked.
How To Heal Wounded Feminine Energy
Slow Down
If you’re always on turbo speed, guess what? It’s time to slow down, boo. It’s time to enjoy every process, trust your Intuition and allow time and space for life to unfold.
Sure, you need to get things done, but the pressure to be “on” every time leads to stress, anxiety, and being overwhelmed.
However, getting comfortable with having regular breaks, resting, and taking naps allows you to breathe and makes you more productive in the long run.
Value Spontaneity And Play
Don’t wait for that vacation to relax. Book a staycation in your favorite hotel, light a candle, read books, dance to cool tunes, and enjoy every moment.
When you get out of your head or overworked state and embrace the spontaneous little joys of life, you feel more like yourself and feel in touch with every aspect of your life (especially your feminine energy).
Make Self-Care A Priority
As women, we tend to put the needs of others before our own, but taking some time off to cater to our needs is vital to our overall health and happiness.
By dedicating time to activities that rejuvenate your mind, body, and spirit, whether its practicing yoga, spending time in nature, enjoying good pleasurable sex, or simply taking a few deep breaths, you soothe and nurture your feminine energy, which in turn allows you to feel energized and content and able to give without feeling depleted.
Examine Your Biases
Do you often feel your hackles rise whenever the femininity topic comes up?
For some women, internalized sexism or misogyny has made it difficult to accept and nurture parts of themselves that may have made them feel vulnerable, targeted, broken, or unworthy.
By examining how you feel about gender, the messages you received about it, and how that might have shaped your willingness to block your tender, gentle or soft parts, only then can you learn how to activate your most authentic self.
Engage In Activities That Spark Your Creativity
Feminine energy embodies the essence of creativity; despite what you think, you are creative!
There are thousands of ways to express yourself creatively – it can be through crafting, cooking, dancing, dreaming up new tech ideas, gardening, painting, or writing.
It’s a common misconception that traditional “art” is the only form of creativity. Broaden your perspective and see what resonates with you. Then make a habit of doing it often.
Learn The Art Of Receiving
You must learn to accept and receive love if you want to tap into your feminine energy. And in doing so, you will trigger a potential partner’s instinct to provide and thus make them feel needed.
So, start working out those receiving nerves and muscles, and you’ll start seeing how the universe and your romantic interest are reaching out to give in droves.
Glam Up, Sis!
Yes, embracing the hobo way of life is comfortable, but if you want to tap into your feminine energy, dressing the part is necessary! Pop on a flattering dress or your sexiest loungewear set. Pop on some pretty shoes (preferably heels) or your favorite bracelet.
You don’t have to wait for Coleta’s wedding or Shuxx’s birthday party to feel sexy and beautiful. You can do so whenever you feel like it.
And remember, femininity is personal, so find your expression and enjoy it! You make the rules here, so have fun, hun!
Honor Your Emotions & Intuition
To tap into your feminine energy, you must fully embrace and express your emotions without judgment. Foster an environment that allows for emotional exploration and practice self-compassion as you navigate your feelings.
Also, learn to listen, tap into and trust your Intuition. Your instincts are a powerful compass, and they help you align with your most authentic self. So let your gut feeling guide your decision; we promise you will lead a wholesome life!
Spend Time With Your Female Besties
Is it just me, or does hanging out with your besties nurture your soul? You could have been riddled with anxiety, but when you’re around them, drinking your favorite mocktails and chatting about adulting stress, you feel calmer and weirdly rejuvenated.
So, if you’re looking for a quick feminine energy recharge and can’t afford therapy, hit up your bestie and let them know what’s going on. You’ll feel better and learn that you’re not the only one struggling.
